DudeMan2766 wrote: bhaw wrote:
Idoit40fans wrote:I don't understand the sending of "save the date"s. Why not just send the invitation?
I never got it either. Especially for people who aren't vital to the wedding (family, very close friends, or parts of the wedding parties). I've never seen someone get one and be like "Wow, I need to make sure I clear my calendar that weekend!" I think it's more of a wedding announcement than any practical use. Plus invitation makers get an extra couple hundred bucks out of you.
Somehow we got into a discussion about marriage last night. My buddy just got divorced from his wife of about 7 years. We were talking about how damn much weddings cost and he chimed in "I'm divorced and I'm still paying off my wedding" Maybe he was exaggerating to get his point across, i dunno, but holy hell that would make anyone rethink a wedding
There are some people that go out and spend ridiculous money on it. When my wife and I first got engaged, we started looking around at venues and it starts to add up quickly. Venue just to book it, food, linens (yeah, these rarely come with the venue), entertainment, hotel to stay there for the day/night, transportation, photographer, etc etc etc.
We opted to go to Vegas and do a package wedding at Planet Hollywood. Figured since so many people had to come in from out of town, might as well make it somewhere a) they can have fun and b) we didn't have to babysit everyone. Cost was pretty nominal for a wedding, we had everyone we wanted, it was perfect for us.
The other thing that tends to happen is people invite everyone they know, everyone their parents know, and everyone they think they should know. We had 30 people total. A few people didn't make it, so we probably invited 50, but we weren't going to invite people just to invite them. Not saying what's wrong or right, but I can't fathom those 250 + people monster weddings people have. I would struggle to find that many people to invite unless it was literally everyone I know.
We paid mostly in cash and the rest on a card that was paid off within 6 months. It wasn't much at all. We preferred to save the money than spend it on the wedding.